✨ Simple Techniques to Master Your Mindset 🧠
Your mindset affects your life more than you think. It affects your business, professional and personal life, and to gain success, you need to master your mindset. In this episode, Adrienne Hill talks with physician assistant, energy medicine practitioner and spiritual mentor Melissa Walsh. Melissa shares her story and talks about how mastering your mindset is the key to a happy and inspired life, and shares tips to get you started on your road to self-mastery. Listen in and learn how to master yourself with help from Melissa.
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✨Simple Techniques To Master Your Mindset 🧠
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As you've been building up your business, have you found that every single time you try to get started to dig in and make some real progress, you're getting distracted by all kinds of personal topics, personal issues, mindset issues, family stuff, pretty much everything other than business? Instead of addressing it, you find yourself thinking, "I can't get into that rabbit hole right now. I just need to focus on my business."
Every time you try to focus on business, you keep getting stuck, pulled away or distracted with all these other topics. It's common. It happens to all of us. In this episode, we're going to cover some simple techniques that you can do to address the topics that are holding you back, and spend a little bit of time on them without going too far down the rabbit hole or getting distracted. If mindset work is what you've been needing, this episode is perfect for you. Let's do this.
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I'm here with Melissa Walsh. She is a Functional Medicine Physician Assistant, Spiritual Mentor and Energy Medicine Practitioner. Welcome, Melissa.
Thank you so much for having me.
I'm excited that your expertise area is very different and to see what people will get out of this. For those people who haven't met you yet or they're not sure what an energy medicine practitioner does, can you tell us a little bit about you and your story?
I've been a PA for many years, and I was drawn to root cause medicine, what lies beneath the physical exam. I started noticing interesting connections that in the clinic, as I'm trying to help people and write that prescription, I'm getting this little voice in my head saying like, "That's not going to help or do the trick. They're not going to get the results that they need from this."
It was everything you were trained to do, but it just wasn't sitting right at some point.
I started feeling guilty because, in my journey, I started being able to see what was beyond the physical exam and the emotional ties to physical problems. It wasn't the setting to be able to go there. What I had for tools was my prescription pad. Not to say that prescriptions never work, but where I was at that time, the people I was seeing, I could see like, "If we could only go there and talk about that stressor, that family situation or what they're struggling with that happened ten years ago." I started seeing this information come through and I felt like I couldn't say anything.
Is it like you didn't have permission or it wasn't appropriate?
It wasn't the setting. I'm not in the mental health clinic. We can see people in a matter of fifteen minutes. The connections I could see beyond this physical exam would be opening the can. When you have fifteen minutes, there's no way you can go there. That is where my journey as an intuitive, spiritual and energy healer started to blossom, because I noticed that I had more to offer than what I could right there in the clinic. I didn't know how it was all going to come together, but I said yes to it.
When I said yes, I was like, "I don't know what this is going to look like, but I know I have some gifts and abilities that I can use to help people get re-centered, rebalanced, clear, energetic, mental and spiritual blocks that are holding them back from doing what they are here to do, what their heart's desires are. I need to do that." When I said yes to that, the universe said, "All right." One thing after another led to me. Now, I'm still working in the clinic part-time, but I'm able to help people release some of those spiritual blocks to get in alignment with their soul's mission here in their higher purpose because we need them. We need you.
It sounds like you have this interesting blend of the physical, rational, logical, medical side, but also the spiritual and emotional side. For the readers out there, I specifically wanted Melissa here because on the surface it seems like, "What does this have to do with social media?" You guys have no idea how much some of these things that are inside that you're not addressing might be creating a block that's preventing you from stepping into what's there for you. That's why I wanted her here. Let's enter this with an open mind because it's going to get fascinating here. Let's start high level. What are some clues or signs that our readers might be able to recognize in their own lives that might show them that they have either a mental or spiritual or energy block going on with them?
Master Your Mindset: Pay attention to what annoys you, triggers you, makes you irritated, and makes you mad during the day because the universe is going to guide you.
I'm going to go back to where you said, "What does this have to do with social media?" It's everything because social media is your vehicle to get your message out. It's part of the mission to get whatever you came here to do and serve people. This is a great vehicle for you to get your ‘you’ out, but what's stopping you from getting ‘you’ out? You hear the, “Be you, be authentic.” You're like, "That's awesome. I want to do that." You go home and you're sitting at your desk and you're like, "What am I supposed to do? I want to get on that video. I know I should get on video and make those posts, but I'm stuck."
"What do I say? How can I say that? What if they judge me or I don't have time today or insert an excuse here?"
Excuses, overwhelm paralysis, feeling like you're afraid of judgment or caring what they're going to think about you, all of those things I feel like we probably all have experienced. I got to bust through those. You get so hard on yourself and you're like, "Why can't I do this? You should on yourself." There's a clue that you're in resistance. Oftentimes, I'll use the word resistance, which essentially means block, but there's something keeping you from doing that thing, showing up for that video, writing that book or whatever it may be for you.
The thing that you know you should be doing, but you're not doing it. Day after day, you're not doing it and you're shoulding on yourself.
You're like, "What do I do?" There are lots of moving pieces and parts, and different tips and tricks, but I wanted to bring through probably one that isn't talked about much because I'm not going to tell you that you have to change your mind. Mindset is very powerful. We know that, but we're going to go a little bit deeper. We want more in our business. Our tunnel vision focus goes onto our business. We're trying to think of all of these avenues and ways in our business, like things that we can do or change to be better in our business. Oftentimes, what I've seen with lots of clients is that it's not your business. It's a different pocket in your life that's creating the issue.
You think the issue is your business, but it's something else entirely.
If you think about your life as a house, we have lots of rooms in our house. In one of the rooms, we have a business, relationships, our work or job, and maybe our school or kids. Each pocket of your life is a room. There are some rooms we don't want to go in, "That room is too messy. That's going to overwhelm me if I go there."
The next room is, "Let's wait until I’ve got to get this other thing done first and then I'll go there. My business excites me and I want to stay in that room." The light is already on in that room. We need to turn all the lights on in the house to take the next step. What you're telling me is I have to go into a dark room and somehow turn on a light so that I can move forward in my business.
It's probably the room you don't want to go into that's so cluttered that you're like, "I don't know where to start, so I'll save that for later."
What happens when I say this is people get afraid because they're like, "I'm not opening that can. That's not necessary." That's a clue that, "There's a little resistance there, but I didn't say you had to go drum up a lot of yuck.” That's not what we need to do either. We don't need to go try to relive our whole entire past to get movement in our business."
Those are some signs and things that give you clues of, "What's next? Where is my resistance? What can I open? Where can I turn that light on today in my life?" Pay attention to what annoys and triggers you and makes you irritated and mad during the day because the universe is going to guide you. You have a GPS system built into your being and you will be guided to what's next for you to look at. When you get this trigger, annoyance or anger that comes up in your day over something, that's your clue.
Is that the thing you should be focusing on?
I wouldn't go as far as to say focus, but it's the thing that you need to bring to the forefront and be like, "What can I shift in this situation?"
You have to take a look at it for a minute. Acknowledge it.
Acknowledging is key.
A lot of times, the things that you're taking me, I want to do the opposite. I want to be like, "I'm not dealing with that right now. I don't have time for that. I'm doing this." You're telling me I should look at it, acknowledge it and give it at least a couple of minutes.
Give it some attention because keeping everything that we don't like to feel under the rug is affecting the entire house. Our rugs are getting too full. It's probably human nature to want to run away from pain and anything that doesn't feel good to us. The problem is you're getting this overflowing effect. It starts affecting other areas of your life, including the ones that you enjoy because that overwhelm you're feeling in your business, that's not just because of your business. If you think about it, I bet you're experiencing some overwhelm in some other rooms of your house that you're not wanting to look at.
I get the analogy and you've said like, "You don't need to focus on it. You just need to acknowledge it." How much time needs to be given to that thing? What do you mean acknowledge? How deep are we talking here?
Master Your Mindset: Emotions are energy in motion, which means we can move them just as they come in, we can move them out, which then helps us be able to keep moving forward in our day and not getting stuck in the events and circumstances that triggered us.
Let's keep it simple. Let's say you're noticing, "That annoys me. I'm now triggered." It could be by a person, situation or event.
Let's say that you were being interrupted. Because you're always interrupted, you feel like, "I can't do live videos because I know I'm going to get interrupted in the middle of it, so I can't do it." You know that to connect with your audience, you should be doing live videos. I threw an example out there because it might be helpful.
That one that you picked is very common and a little bit different than a quick emotional trigger because that one goes a little bit deeper into what you feel like you're having to do in your day and everything that needs to get done. What I would like to focus first on because that comes up, but that one is not as quick to shift energetically in the moment. I would like to share with you guys some techniques that you can do or a strategy that you can use to help you shift through the moment of the charge.
The example I like to use is you had a pretty good day. You're going to get home and you have a plan to do your video that night. Instead, you walk into the kitchen. Everybody wants you or needs something from you or somebody in your house triggered you. Now, you're annoyed. You might be mad or like, "Here we go again." When you get into that mode, you can't go do a video. You busted the whole mood like, "There we go again." You're trying to get out the door in the morning and there's all this ruckus. Now, you're trying to get yourself together again so that you can have a good day like a reset.
It's more of like the charges because with the emotional charge, we can do something about that in the moment to help realign our energetic state to a higher energetic vibrational frequency, so that we can get more of what we desire in our life that day. That helps us move through that resistance. Whether that's overwhelming, anger, fear, doubt or whatever it may be, it can help move that out so that we don't stay stuck there. It goes to the experience that you had told me about that you had with the processing of emotions steps.
People can identify what's holding them back by figuring out what triggers. It could be any negative emotion, frustration, feeling frazzled or rushed. What do they do once they find the trigger?
That charge comes across you. You feel it in your body. It's just energy. I don't mean to downplay a feeling because all feelings are valid, but emotions are energy in motion, which means we can move them. As they come in, we can move them out, which then helps us be able to keep moving forward in our day and not getting stuck in the events and circumstances that triggered us.
If something makes you feel frazzled right away in the morning, you don't have to feel frazzled all day. You can move that energy out and then let other more positive energies flow in.
It takes a little effort to do this and it's possible to do this. I've been teaching this to lots of people. We can go through it now or hold that for the end, whatever you would like.
You have a free gift for our readers. Do you want to tell us a little bit about that?
The free gift I want to give you guys goes hand-in-hand with what we talked about. When you feel the charge, whether that's in your house, at work or you see something online that stops you in your track, I want to give you the process that I've used and taught to many people all around the country on what to do in the moment. In that moment, we get stopped and stuck. We can't move on to serve people in the way that we're here to serve if we're stuck. We can move that. I want to give you the video I'm explaining. I'll also give you the step-by-step process for those of you who like paper to read that list.
That's helpful because I've noticed there are certain things that will trigger me. My tendency is to be like, "That's annoying. I'm not going to let that hold me down. I'm going to put it back here," but I'm making it worse by not taking a moment to address it right there in the moment.
Some people may say, "I've gotten through most of my life doing that and that has worked just fine." That's true. We all do that. It doesn't mean every single thing you have to do right then, but it is necessary to come back to it at least later to move that energy out. I'll teach you how to do that in the video. You're not putting more stuff under the rug because it's seeping out and affecting every area of your life.
It could be that if you've been dealing with things that way, that it's creating a block in your business, even though it has nothing to do with your business. It's just that you're all gummed up with all these triggers that you haven't dealt with.
It's all connected. There's a part of us that wishes it wasn't. We want to put the cubicle walls up like, "This is my business, work and relationship. I don't need to deal with that now. Once I get this going, then I'll focus on this cubicle and then I'll go into that cubicle." The walls are illusions. There are no cubicle walls. It all meshes together, whether we like it or not. I wish it didn't. That would be a lot easier.
The emotions that we're experiencing now, let's say we get triggered with anger. That anger is like the back-in-the-day cartoons where that bomb or all the TNT bars are connected to one another. Any built-up anger from career to childhood is all connected. The charge, emotion and frequency of anger are all connected. Anything that hasn't been dealt with can be coming you up. It's lit, which is classic for the overreactions. They're like, "Sorry. I overreacted." Why did you overreact? That situation wasn't even that big of a deal. You overreacted and got so mad because it's not just from that thing that happened right in front of you that second. It's all connected.
I always joke at my kids. I have two kids. One is the instigator and one is the overreactor. It's probably because there have been 100 things. It wasn't the one thing in that moment. That was the straw that broke the camel's back.
“I don't know what we're talking about. I don't want to go there.” I don't want to paint that picture because it's hard as it feels like it would be. It's not that you're going to relive all of the past hurts to clear. It's not that at all. It's through looking at it as energy, "The charge I'm feeling is an energy that's surfacing for me," because you're ready to release it. You're not going to be given an experience in your life unless you're ready to deal with it.
It's your body's way of saying like, "I'm coming up because I'm ready for you to release me if you let me go."
You don't know what to do with it because we're not taught that, which is why I will teach you guys that. It almost feels like a pattern that keeps coming back because it's not getting released.
It's like, "When are you going to address me?"
Until that is released, it's very difficult to take that next step. Maybe what you think is your next step in your business ends up being the next step in your relationship. You need to take that next step in your relationship before you can open that door for the next step in your business, whether you like it or not because everything is so interconnected.
I can think of multiple examples in my life where that was true. Hopefully, for the readers out there, if this conversation is resonating with you and you're realizing, if you think about any given week, there are certain things that are frustrating you over and over, or bringing up some negative emotion over and over that you keep. I know my tendency is to be like, "You go over here. This is perfect for you."
It's a free gift. You have the instructional videos and the guide that walks people through. For your clients who you've shown how to do this, how has it changed their business and the moments they're taking to address these things? Is it a 1-hour process or a 1-minute thing? How big of an investment are we talking about here in time?
For everyone, it's different. It depends on one's willingness to bust through the crap like, "Are you willing to go there?" It takes quite a bit of courage and bravery to say, "I'm ready to release these things because that's what I need to step into who I truly am." When you think of the, “Be you, be authentic,” and, “What's next?” That's what's next. Your true ‘you’ is already here beneath a few of these layers that we're trying to shed. I can teach the process, but then it's up to each person to pause and think about this amongst the trigger.
I remember when I learned and started it with myself. I had it at the forefront like, "I can do this." I was working on communication with my husband because I was probably more passive-aggressive. I try to let it go by. Finally, all these little things blow up. I was like, "I'm going to work on practicing communicating better instead of having this huge trigger and then I blow up in the middle of the kitchen." What would happen is I had this process in my mind that I was going to do. I didn't remember to do it until after the blow-up. I'm like, "That was my opportunity."
You're never self-aware in the moment. It's always after the moment.
Master Your Mindset: Something is blocking you from freedom. Something is blocking you from the abundance in your business. There's something blocking you from experiencing that loving relationship. But what is it? We don't usually know.
It would happen again. I'm like, "I did it again." I would tell my friend. I'm like, "I could have tried that out." That's okay. I was developing an awareness. I had a new tool and I wasn't used to having the tool in the moment. I would start with step one. Step one is so simple. It's a pause. In the heat of these triggers, I would even forget the pause. I said, "Step one, I'm going to pause." You have another situation that I'm overreacting to. I would remember to pause, but I wouldn't do anything else. I would use practice with time. It probably took me about 5 or 6 more times to be able to bring this to the surface. It started working.
I don't expect any of you to do this, but I did. We were in the middle of the kitchen. This little thing happened where I was feeling like I wasn't good enough. Nothing was being recognized around the house. It's a common thing. He didn't mean to make me feel like that at all, but that was my trigger that was coming up to clear. I said all of the steps out loud. Do you know what it did to the whole situation? Diffused it. It was more like, "I didn't realize that would make you feel that way." It was awkward. I'm used to that.
It diffused the whole situation. There was clarity around the whole situation and our communication opened. That was one level, but that needed to happen in order for me to feel good in other rooms and pockets because it's all connected. If you feel like you're not communicating with your spouse very well and you're having these passive-aggressive little blow-ups or tips, that holds you back. That takes the whole mood out of anything.
It's hard to move into the next thing being your best self if you're carrying around the same feeling.
Maybe it's not a spouse. Maybe it's a friend, mom, dad, brother, sister or whatever. This process is a way that no matter who you are or where you're at, you could be in a middle of a work meeting, those tense ones, and you can do this. It helps diffuse the charge so you're not taking that lower frequency, that kind of negative feeling, with you into your next task, which may be your business.
If you're bringing that into your business, that's very difficult for your business to take off or receive the inspired action from that higher frequency state that's connected with your mission. You can't get those ideas and a-has to then have the awesome idea that takes you further where you want to be. You're congested and plugged up with all that other yuck.
Thinking back through my own business, I can think of very distinct points in time where I couldn't move forward until I addressed something that was completely unrelated. I thought it was unrelated. In my mind, it was, but in my world, it wasn't. It's super helpful.
I'm going to use myself for example because this is what I've been using. It's freedom like, "I want freedom in my finances, business and whole life. I want to feel that." I didn't know what I would be guided to do next to get that freedom. That's not up to me to decide. It just happens. What happens is you get a trigger because something is blocking you from freedom, from the abundance in your business and experiencing that loving relationship. What is it? We don't usually know. Sometimes you do know and you're in resistance, but sometimes we don't know.
If we follow those triggers, it's almost like following the breadcrumbs to where we're trying to go.
These experiences aren't by accident. This is all part of the path. You're being brought the experience to work and move through, which then is the key that unlocks the next thing.
Every time I'm stuffing it back, I'm slowing myself down.
The golden nuggets are found in the dark. That's where you're going to find the key. Dark doesn't have to mean extreme trauma. It's the things that we don't want to look at right now because we don't have time for that because that's going to open up a huge thing that I don't know how to deal with and experience. What I'm saying in this process is you don't have to go relive all your past things that have been hiding. This charge that you're experiencing in this moment that's holding you back is what's going to help turn that light on so you can see your next step instead of being so overwhelmed and not sure what action to even take.
Now, your action is dealing with that negative charge, that trigger that's right in front of you, so you can clear that off the path so your path can now be lit to the next step. You take your next step and it's classic. You get the next trigger. When you know how to deal with it and how this is just a thing, it gets easier. This is part of our growth. When you have these challenges and meet the resistance, you know you're on the growth track.
It's almost like you start celebrating those moments because you're like, "Yes." It's like unlocking another level in a game.
When you unlock it, usually you wouldn't have wished that upon anyone. You're like, "I'm glad we made it through that one." When you're presented with an experience or a challenge, that means you have everything that you need to get through it. Otherwise, it wouldn't have been presented to you.
It's a matter of whether you're brave enough to confront and address it. If you've been reading this conversation, I know it's a lot of analogies but hopefully, it helped you to wrap your mind around that. It could be a different room in your house that you need to turn on the light and acknowledge what's in there. Acknowledging a moment, not a can of worms in your entire childhood moment.
Melissa is giving us the tools to help us to do that so that when we do show up on social, put ourselves out there, and share a little bit about our life, business or offer, we are showing up as our best selves with our best energy and we're not gummed up, held back or held down. Be sure to grab her free gift.
Figure out how to live your best self in those micro-moments so that you can move forward and take big leaps in your business. I know it's a very different type of topic and action, but a lot of the other actions that you can take. It's a huge foundational underpinning underneath everything that we're talking about. I hope you guys found huge value here. Thank you, Melissa.
Thank you so much for having me. Now, go take that inspired action.
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About Melissa Walsh
Aside from being a physician assistant, Melissa is an energy medicine practitioner and spiritual mentor and is on a mission to help “bridge the gaps” in healthcare. She helps people free themselves from emotional pain without reliving the past so they can be the highest versions of themselves and fulfill their heart’s desires.
Melissa is known for helping bridge people from sickness to health and from darkness to light. She does BIG PICTURE work, helping people see how they too are here on a mission to do big, meaningful things.